Time Together

     Every day is hectic and it seems there is less and less time for anything. We rush to work and school. We take quick trips to the store. We don't have time to make  time for what counts.
     Any relationship suffers when someone feels like the other person doesn't have time for them. Relationships also suffer when the little free time there is gets spent apart. I hear so much about man caves and mom caves and all the other caves people are constructing to get "me time." Well, me time is great, but don't be so determined to be alone with me that you completely shut out we. In the hunt for personal relaxation remember you got together because you found excitement and relaxation in being together (yes, i mean both at the same time). 
     My husband and I are gamers. We each have a PS3.  Many game systems now have online counterparts. Maybe he wants to game with his bro's. That is fine, but if you both like games like Red Dead Redemption or other online linkables this is one way to sneak in fun time together.  
     For once, I also encourage you to take television to heart. Take a look at a little show called The League. If you and your significant other both like sports, are computer savy, and actually have time to follow the sport of interest: JOIN A FANTASY LEAGUE. Join one at random through a safe site like espn.com or yahoo.com. If that's not your thing, see if you can get other couples, friends, and family members to join in forming your own. One stone many birds, my friends. Bring your entire circle closer together with the friendly competition of vicarious sports.
     Take advantage of technology. Use your phone to send each other silly pictures from your day throughout the day or play a casual game. It makes the other person feel included and know that you enjoy sharing with them. Hold back at times when it is inappropriate, like school and work. A quick photo to bring humor or say, "I miss you ::wink wink::" can make you feel cared for and close. Slipping humor in to a smartphone based word game can be a pleasant lunch hour surprise.
     At any rate, there are a million and one ways to interact when you are really interacting. Take advantage of all the ways to have time together when you aren't having time together. You never know what small inclusion in your activities will make your spouse smile.

Taking Time to be Merry,
Brittany